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Tougher than it seemed to be for a while.

Maddie isn't doing well in school.  Having a hard time.  Karen is struggling trying to keep it all together.  I'm here not able to do anything about anything.  The time change makes it difficult to have any meaningful contact or impact. 

Maybe it's just the Holidays and/or the first full week(s) or so starting to really settle in on what this is really all about.


Not really looking for anything, just needed to type.

/M

Sal and I spent 3 years basically with 6 month gaps between seeing eachother.  It wasn't easy... but keep your eyes on the bigger picture and it seems to go better.  Try seeing how long a goatee you can grow out in the meantime...
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I think they and you are missing each other. I hope all gets better soon! Our thoughts and prayers are going in your direction......

I don't know about the goatee..... you are 40 now and it may need a little "Just for Men."    [sm_devil]

Indeed.

I could go for the goatee, but funny enough on video chat tonight she was already giving me *feces* about not shaving.  I don't know if I could pull it off.  LOL

Thank you.  We are missing each other for sure.  Problem is (as was a concern of mine from the start) it felt like such a burden to leave Karen with at home.  At lot to try to keep up with, esp. with Maddie at that age, school, the house, the weather, still working full time, etc.

I guess just a soft HTFU for all involved is what's in order.

You should be able to pull off a Torp-style one.

That's about it.   [sm_anon]

I don't think you need a "soft HTFU" is needed! Just talk to each other. Spanky used to work nights and we would talk when I was going to work and he was on his way home, and vice versa. Unfortunately it is a small test, and I believe that y'all will make it through it. The biggest trial is the holidays. I just hope you sent the presents or left them there, or you deliver them in person (if possible).

LOL  Part of the problem (at least for tonight/today).  We got some pretty good stuff for Maddie, but I guess with her actions and attitude lately Karen threatened to "postpone Christmas". 

Oh *feces* did that set off a firestorm/waterworks/ "very close to a change in life for a young girl" emotional response, etc. etc.  Karen is much more of a hard ass than I am.
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Man O man, this is tuff stuff.  I know you are going to make it.  Your girl is the one that both you guys need to show the love.  Hang in there. 

Thanks bud.  I did spend a lot of time tonight talking to her.  I could see her coming around towards the end.  I know she's just in a tough spot right now.  Not just this situation, but growing up in general.

How old? My wife already did the equivalent of dropping a nuclear weapon--cancelled the party for my daughter's fifth birthday.

 ;D /  :'(


11.   Different than the 5 y/o antics I guess.  Although I remember those called for some sanctions as well.  [sm_laughing]

Stroh,

I know this is tough.  As an adult, I moved from the land of spacey and Uisce to Charlotte, NC, a few months before my wife could join me.  She was working full-time, selling the house, and a week into it found out she was pregnant with child #1 (for the 3rd time...).  I flew her out once and went back a couple of weekends, in addition to the regular phone calls. 

As a kid, I went through this twice.  Once when I was heading into 3rd grade (9 month separation as my dad finished his residency in UT and we moved to Boston).  Four years later we moved the summer before 7th grade (6 month separation for the move from Boston to Rochester, MN).  It certainly was tough as a kid (though I don't remember a lot of specifics), but boy as an adult I REALLY appreciate the moving around, despite the temporary hardships.  Back then, not a lot of calls, as they were just too expensive. 

Point being, you can get through it and kids are usually quite resilient.  Not that we needed it, I know my wife and I both gained a greater appreciation for each other.  Moving to a new city without a core support group of folks we knew, moving to Charlotte really forced us to rely on each other for support.  I'll check with my folks to see what suggestions they might have.

Are you going to be able to spend some weekends with them?

Thank you so much for you post.  Nice and comforting in a way to just read it.

Yeah, we will be attempting to fly here or there.  We'll see each other.  I guess my big thing was how quickly things seemed to cave in/fall apart/blow up/ just plain not work.  After such a short time.  Or so it seemed.  Maddie in tears, karen pulling her hair out, etc.  Every thing will be fine, and we will all be the better for it.  Some day.

Soon, I hope.  Good luck, dude.

Now we have arrived at why I was the only one that voted that you shouldn't do it.  :sad3:

Definitely not a situation for a soft HTFU. Hang in there bud. The ups and downs will continue but it will work out. We have daughters the same age and you know how that age is even in the best of times.

You'll be together before you know it and all this will be part of the past. 

all you need is a yuletubercle interlude

how 'bout a Jewish guy singing the best Christmas song ever!!!!


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Go to a strip club, that always made me feel better. ;)

It won't be long before the other two move out there with ya. It just seems long now but once they do you will be thinking about the peace and quiet you had.

In all seriousness time will pass and things will be back to a new normal.

All of you will get through this ordeal.  Just need to remember that your daughter is scared of moving from her friends (this is huge with young girls - I have 2 - 37 yr old and 26 year old - just listing my bona fides  ;D), not having her Dad with her for Christmas, wife is on overload having to deal with all of this.  The fact that you can communicate with video chat is a big bonus.

Your daughter is the one that is going to need as much extra attention as possible.