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Tough Going
« on: December 22, 2009, 08:50:32 PM »

Tougher than it seemed to be for a while.

Maddie isn't doing well in school.  Having a hard time.  Karen is struggling trying to keep it all together.  I'm here not able to do anything about anything.  The time change makes it difficult to have any meaningful contact or impact. 

Maybe it's just the Holidays and/or the first full week(s) or so starting to really settle in on what this is really all about.


Not really looking for anything, just needed to type.

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« Reply #1 on: December 22, 2009, 08:54:50 PM »

Sal and I spent 3 years basically with 6 month gaps between seeing eachother.  It wasn't easy... but keep your eyes on the bigger picture and it seems to go better.  Try seeing how long a goatee you can grow out in the meantime...
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« Reply #2 on: December 22, 2009, 08:55:39 PM »

I think they and you are missing each other. I hope all gets better soon! Our thoughts and prayers are going in your direction......
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« Reply #3 on: December 22, 2009, 08:57:59 PM »

Sal and I spent 3 years basically with 6 month gaps between seeing eachother.  It wasn't easy... but keep your eyes on the bigger picture and it seems to go better.  Try seeing how long a goatee you can grow out in the meantime...
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I don't know about the goatee..... you are 40 now and it may need a little "Just for Men."    Devil
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« Reply #4 on: December 22, 2009, 09:03:30 PM »

Sal and I spent 3 years basically with 6 month gaps between seeing eachother.  It wasn't easy... but keep your eyes on the bigger picture and it seems to go better.  Try seeing how long a goatee you can grow out in the meantime...
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Indeed.

I could go for the goatee, but funny enough on video chat tonight she was already giving me *feces* about not shaving.  I don't know if I could pull it off.  LOL
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« Reply #5 on: December 22, 2009, 09:07:10 PM »

I think they and you are missing each other. I hope all gets better soon! Our thoughts and prayers are going in your direction......

Thank you.  We are missing each other for sure.  Problem is (as was a concern of mine from the start) it felt like such a burden to leave Karen with at home.  At lot to try to keep up with, esp. with Maddie at that age, school, the house, the weather, still working full time, etc.

I guess just a soft HTFU for all involved is what's in order.
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« Reply #6 on: December 22, 2009, 09:08:51 PM »

Sal and I spent 3 years basically with 6 month gaps between seeing eachother.  It wasn't easy... but keep your eyes on the bigger picture and it seems to go better.  Try seeing how long a goatee you can grow out in the meantime...
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Indeed.

I could go for the goatee, but funny enough on video chat tonight she was already giving me *feces* about not shaving.  I don't know if I could pull it off.  LOL

You should be able to pull off a Torp-style one.
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« Reply #7 on: December 22, 2009, 09:09:29 PM »

Sal and I spent 3 years basically with 6 month gaps between seeing eachother.  It wasn't easy... but keep your eyes on the bigger picture and it seems to go better.  Try seeing how long a goatee you can grow out in the meantime...
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Indeed.

I could go for the goatee, but funny enough on video chat tonight she was already giving me *feces* about not shaving.  I don't know if I could pull it off.  LOL

You should be able to pull off a Torp-style one.

That's about it.   Anonymous
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« Reply #8 on: December 22, 2009, 09:12:11 PM »

I think they and you are missing each other. I hope all gets better soon! Our thoughts and prayers are going in your direction......

Thank you.  We are missing each other for sure.  Problem is (as was a concern of mine from the start) it felt like such a burden to leave Karen with at home.  At lot to try to keep up with, esp. with Maddie at that age, school, the house, the weather, still working full time, etc.

I guess just a soft HTFU for all involved is what's in order.

I don't think you need a "soft HTFU" is needed! Just talk to each other. Spanky used to work nights and we would talk when I was going to work and he was on his way home, and vice versa. Unfortunately it is a small test, and I believe that y'all will make it through it. The biggest trial is the holidays. I just hope you sent the presents or left them there, or you deliver them in person (if possible).
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« Reply #9 on: December 22, 2009, 09:17:00 PM »

I think they and you are missing each other. I hope all gets better soon! Our thoughts and prayers are going in your direction......

Thank you.  We are missing each other for sure.  Problem is (as was a concern of mine from the start) it felt like such a burden to leave Karen with at home.  At lot to try to keep up with, esp. with Maddie at that age, school, the house, the weather, still working full time, etc.

I guess just a soft HTFU for all involved is what's in order.

I don't think you need a "soft HTFU" is needed! Just talk to each other. Spanky used to work nights and we would talk when I was going to work and he was on his way home, and vice versa. Unfortunately it is a small test, and I believe that y'all will make it through it. The biggest trial is the holidays. I just hope you sent the presents or left them there, or you deliver them in person (if possible).


LOL  Part of the problem (at least for tonight/today).  We got some pretty good stuff for Maddie, but I guess with her actions and attitude lately Karen threatened to "postpone Christmas". 

Oh *feces* did that set off a firestorm/waterworks/ "very close to a change in life for a young girl" emotional response, etc. etc.  Karen is much more of a hard ass than I am.
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« Reply #10 on: December 22, 2009, 09:21:11 PM »

Man O man, this is tuff stuff.  I know you are going to make it.  Your girl is the one that both you guys need to show the love.  Hang in there. 
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« Reply #11 on: December 22, 2009, 09:24:16 PM »

Man O man, this is tuff stuff.  I know you are going to make it.  Your girl is the one that both you guys need to show the love.  Hang in there. 

Thanks bud.  I did spend a lot of time tonight talking to her.  I could see her coming around towards the end.  I know she's just in a tough spot right now.  Not just this situation, but growing up in general.
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« Reply #12 on: December 22, 2009, 09:29:51 PM »

I think they and you are missing each other. I hope all gets better soon! Our thoughts and prayers are going in your direction......

Thank you.  We are missing each other for sure.  Problem is (as was a concern of mine from the start) it felt like such a burden to leave Karen with at home.  At lot to try to keep up with, esp. with Maddie at that age, school, the house, the weather, still working full time, etc.

I guess just a soft HTFU for all involved is what's in order.

I don't think you need a "soft HTFU" is needed! Just talk to each other. Spanky used to work nights and we would talk when I was going to work and he was on his way home, and vice versa. Unfortunately it is a small test, and I believe that y'all will make it through it. The biggest trial is the holidays. I just hope you sent the presents or left them there, or you deliver them in person (if possible).


LOL  Part of the problem (at least for tonight/today).  We got some pretty good stuff for Maddie, but I guess with her actions and attitude lately Karen threatened to "postpone Christmas". 

Oh *feces* did that set off a firestorm/waterworks/ "very close to a change in life for a young girl" emotional response, etc. etc.  Karen is much more of a hard ass than I am.
 Oops

How old? My wife already did the equivalent of dropping a nuclear weapon--cancelled the party for my daughter's fifth birthday.
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« Reply #13 on: December 22, 2009, 09:33:34 PM »

 GrinCry


11.   Different than the 5 y/o antics I guess.  Although I remember those called for some sanctions as well.  Laughing
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« Reply #14 on: December 22, 2009, 10:05:19 PM »

Stroh,

I know this is tough.  As an adult, I moved from the land of spacey and Uisce to Charlotte, NC, a few months before my wife could join me.  She was working full-time, selling the house, and a week into it found out she was pregnant with child #1 (for the 3rd time...).  I flew her out once and went back a couple of weekends, in addition to the regular phone calls. 

As a kid, I went through this twice.  Once when I was heading into 3rd grade (9 month separation as my dad finished his residency in UT and we moved to Boston).  Four years later we moved the summer before 7th grade (6 month separation for the move from Boston to Rochester, MN).  It certainly was tough as a kid (though I don't remember a lot of specifics), but boy as an adult I REALLY appreciate the moving around, despite the temporary hardships.  Back then, not a lot of calls, as they were just too expensive. 

Point being, you can get through it and kids are usually quite resilient.  Not that we needed it, I know my wife and I both gained a greater appreciation for each other.  Moving to a new city without a core support group of folks we knew, moving to Charlotte really forced us to rely on each other for support.  I'll check with my folks to see what suggestions they might have.

Are you going to be able to spend some weekends with them?
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