Serious question

Dude, it's incest and it's wrong.  Step away.

I know. But I do have a serious question. I have a really close friend, she is very much like a sister to me. She divorced several months ago and just recently she started to date this guy. She really wants to know what I think of him. I met him last night for the first time. She is going out of town for the next couple of days but I know when she comes back she is going to ask me what I think of him.

Honestly I was not impressed. In fact I didn't like some of the things he said to me. The details of what he said don't really matter to this but I know my friend really values my opinion. I dread the question I know she will ask.

This is how it started out:
him: "So I understand you two are pretty close" (I had no idea he and she talked about me)
me: "yes we are"
Him: "so what kind of dirt about her can you give me?" (Are you *goshdarn* serious? You really think I'm going to tell you stuff, after just meeting you?)
me: "you're asking the wrong guy"

So the conversation turned to how she acts at work and he is very interested. then I say
"that is not the dirt he is looking for"
Him: "Exactly, I want real dirt!"
me: "You are not going to get that from me." (she then high fives me. And yes they all had been drinking, I just got there)

So the ladies decide to go to the powder room leaving the two guys. I can tell he was uncomfortable. This is the part that really bothered me.

him: so you like sports?
me: yes
him: tell me about your son, the one into sports. the 10yo.
m: he is really into football and really likes it.
h: does he play?
m: no we told him if he wants to play in middle school we will talk about it.
h: you really should get him into a league. Let him play.
m: he really hasn't said he wants to.
h: but you should get him into it. It would be good for him.
m: he has played baseball for years and likes it.
h: So he knows to be a team player. you really should let him play.
m: If and when he says he wants to we will talk to him about it. I am not going to force him to do something he doesn't want to do.
h: well I guess you know what's best for your son.

This guys is recently divorced and has a 1yo daughter. Don't tell me what is best for my son. You don't know me, or my son. I have been married for 13 years, have 3 boys. I am pretty sure I know what I am doing.

Clive, I agree with you a little. I am sure he was intimidated. Or maybe not. He was not humble that's for sure. I felt he was quite bold actually.

I feel bad because I know she is happy right now. This relationship may not last past winter, or maybe it will. I don't know. As long as she is happy that's all I care about. I don't have to pals with this guy. I can be cordial. I just don't want her to think I don't want her to see this guy just because I don't like him.

Maybe I am just getting older or maybe I am overprotective.

Good point but shouldn't he be trying to impress me or make a good impression? Even if threatened by me? I was not offensive or over boding in any way. I just sat there and listened. I answered question in a calm way. I don't think I gave the impression of being protective other then not getting dirt from me.

Anyway the problem I have is how do I tell her without her feeling offended? She really does value my opinion. I don't want her to get defensive just because he rubs me the wrong way.

T/J.
I was more intimated by Darla.



 

AHAHHA
LMAO
epic self own while trying to make a joke.


Intimidated.


Funny thing is it passed FireFox spellcheck 

I find it odd the guy, basically upon meeting you for the first time, was pressing for "the dirt" on someone he knew was your friend.

Or maybe he was pressing too hard trying to be one of the group. Give him another chance and see how you feel.